This post is my version of preaching to myself. This is an area I need to be better at.
The difference between coaching and criticizing is encouragement and instruction.
Criticism merely points out what is wrong, assumes they should know better, and robs them of dignity. Coaching demonstrates and articulates how to do it correctly, assumes they can do better, and elevates their dignity with encouragement.
Our kids will very often live up or down to the words we speak into their lives. Are your words helpful or hurtful?
There are moments in parenting as in coaching when you need to point out poor behavior, character, or execution in a very direct and stern way. These moments should be done away from listening ears and seeing eyes. Don’t rob them of their dignity by belittling them. Especially in front of others.